Thursday, October 25, 2012

Online Dating: Desperate or Innovative Part Deux...

So guys you know early on in my blog, I had post about online dating, well these past 3 days have been rather entertaining. Why? Well I did a little experiment. As you may or may not know acquired I had a very old picture of myself on my hi5 account with my former relaxed hair. I saw that certain individuals left comments on a picture that is longer then my college career or just about lol. So for entertainment purposes, I added a newer pic of myself looking rather older and with my funky short hair. Innovative … right. So for the last 3 days I have found messages from random men. Ok…that was the point. But the reason behind this experiment was to show how DESPERATE men are online. You would someone in their 30’s would more subtle with their fondness of female’s picture … sure…lol. One individual was setting up a time to meet…right… I don’t even meet up with my friends who I KNOW and TRUST on a regular…I’m going to meet u…keep dreaming. Another IDIOT wanted me to call him…HELL NO. Today the finale of this experiment some guy is telling me he would like to take me out… sure. What I noticed about all of these convos is that they started with are you single, for the most part. After much thinking these last few days, I came to a conclusion that is a pure dating site and not the hi5 I knew before. Also I see there are new norms now in online chatting that set a very different standard then before. In the past especially people born in the 80’s and early 90’s people would chat just to chat. It’s like society so lovesick that when I spoke to these weirdoes, they didn’t even ask my name or age, just…are you single? This is the sick society we are living in. It’s scary. Parents please alert your kids about the dangers on the Internet. I have a niece now and I would never want her to be linked to some perverted pedophile. The same with my nephews. It is just crazy.
For me there is a great thing about connecting with ppl you KNOW already online. It just shows us that society is using technology as crutch to not  improving your social skills. Dating is a social thing first and foremost and honestly I’m not going to go out on a date when the dude doesn’t even know my name. That is just ridiculous in every sense of the word and its meaning. By the way I deleted my hi 5 account. I do not want to be associated with men who need to get out their damn house, get a wingman  and make it happen. You will feel way better and maybe you can get somewhere wink wink…Yes that is my opinion 

Monday, October 15, 2012

My Amazing Relationship…

The relationship I have with my mom is rather interesting…unique bond. Honestly we need our own reality show. We are two DIFFERENT people. Our clashing personalities make this bond epic. My mom is a middle aged Haitian women and she is set with her Haitian ways. LOL. That is not even half of it. My mom is a very sweet lady but an introvert. She is very expressive and talkative when she wants to ANNOY me. Well me, I’m in my mid twenties but have a mindset of a 35 year old. Disaster waiting to happen. I’m a straightforward extrovert who is LOGICAL. So when my mom and me have a conversation it is like sisters debating. Notice I say DEBATING…its rather cute in a way. Yea my mom is overprotective but she choses her battles. LOL. My iPhone conveniently “doesn’t work” when I go out, but at the end of the day…I call my mom. My mom knows me and I know her. She knows my life is set. Honestly I’m proud to inherit this woman’s genes. She has taught me  so much. My children will LOVE their grandma. My nephews and niece adore her too. I LOVE my family. I know this post is too mushy but … SO WHAT... LOL.

What Have You Done For Me Lately

People can be real. People can have a mask. At the end of the day, what have you done for me lately? Most people have an ulterior motive. We all do… but whoever helps me become a better person and has good intentions in our relationship, will always be great and my cup of tea. In life we all have relationships, I believe what matters most is that the relationships we foster HELP us. I have deleted people intentionally and unintentionally. I don’t regret it. I have grown as a person. I know who has my back and that’s it. People waste their time fostering and dealing with people who should not matter. The less people I deal with on a personal basis is GREAT… I’m a laid back easygoing person…so I take people on my tolerance level…Honestly if you are negative…stay away. Religious doesn’t mean positive. Perfect doesn’t mean positive. Notoriety doesn’t mean helpful. Education doesn’t mean wisdom. I love and appreciate people who HELP me and in return I HELP them. I don’t OWE them anything and they don’t OWE me anything. People put high expectations on people who don’t even CARE about them. I have learned to live my life, be righteous, and build a family in the future. That’s my life.

Thursday, October 11, 2012

Are You About That Lifestyle?

Fashion and Style are two different things. I want to establish that for those ignorant of these two terms. For me my passion is fashion and my style is evolving as we speak. Now fashion is basically what is of the moment meaning trends or whatever is cool. That can mean anything. Now style is who you are visually in the context of this blog post. So can fashion and style merge…of course? Now what does lifestyle has to do with any of these things. A LOT. I’m a knowledgeable consumer of clothing and I know for the most part what these designers are trying to convey in their marketing campaigns. Some people buy certain crazy expensive clothes and HELLO they did not have you in mind at all as their consumer. Now if you think your about that lifestyle, knock yourself out, but if you not making a stack after tax and you wanna buy a REAL Hermes belt, homie admit yourself to a psych ward. Do you know anything about French fashion, I don’t know much but I’m no socialite to spend my rent money on ACCESSORIES, not even the clothes… think about it… maybe you should buy a French Connection belt… that’s good with a stack paycheck and you can buy some Kenneth Cole shoes or maybe Aldo jus so you can still buy your monthly metrocard. People I’m a fashionista but I know I’m not Jennifer Lopez.
Another thing I’m into American designers…why…it fits my lifestyle… I’m a laid-back girl and full of energy…so I’m probably going to wear kicks, flats, and sandals… that is my style. Now to be in trend or fashionable…I’m going to invest in some Levi’s lol better yet if I wanna be contemporary I will invest into some Hudson jeans… sneakers…idk…I would go to Bloomies to figure that out. But that’s me…I’m not into Gucci, LV, Hermes…but I like Tory Burch but she is American designer. So what I’m saying be yourself and not be a poser. Buy something because you love the brand and what it is about and also if you can AFFORD it… being broke should never be in style…That is my opinion.

Why I Miss MySpace?

Social media is not a new phenomenon; it has come in many forms and likings. However I would like to reminisce on the wonderful website called I remember Tom, my first friend lol. MySpace made you creative with the wallpaper options. Lets not forget the massive amount of friends you can have. My cousin had a lot of friends or people he happened to stalk lol. I can attest to having a MySpace stalker on my end lol. MySpace was what you wanted it to be. Hooking up, promoting your music or catching up with your loved ones. Great times. With the advent of Facebook, everybody jumped abroad. On to the next one.  This is the world for you. There will be another social medium that will dominate. Nothing lasts forever. Nothing is new under the sun… I miss MySpace…That is my opinion.

Monday, October 8, 2012

Why Do We Have To Label Everything…

I’m just a “different” person but that’s me. I was always a free spirited laid- back person; this is just a  “layer” of me. Ok, what I’m getting at is with some things in life labels just make it so annoying and difficult. I’m talking especially with relationships, friendships and romantic. (whatever that means) So who is a “friend” to you? I know who my friends are, but it is cool to hang out and be entertained by LOSERS, HATERS, NEGATIVE people to have a good time and laugh at their bs. Case in point this negative person I knew who is so LAME went to a particular Thai hot spot wearing a tutu, my best friend and relative were dying, her stupidity was irritating. This LOSER had the audacity to ask my cousin if she has a license knowing that I was in the passenger side of her SUV, a Mercedes-Benz by the way. Apparently the LOSER would rather walk around in a tutu on a MTA bus than rather be driven around a Benz hmmm LAME! I KNOW she was never my FRIEND, I don’t get caught up with labels and you should not too...Yes I have an opinion!