Friday, September 20, 2013

Skater Boi


Flashback eleven years ago! Avril Lavigne in the music scene. Her iconic tie and her fun/rocker girl style brought many people to her awesome music. I want to talk about her song “Skater Boi”. I am not going to speak about the music video.  I just love the lyrics of this song. The music is not too bad also. The song opens with someone talking about the story of a boy being a skateboarder and a popular girl being a dancer. He liked her and she did too. The popular girl never really wanted to reveal her mutual feelings. Long story short, this skater boi succeeds in life and becomes a big time musician. The person telling this story seems to be Avril Lavigne, she is now this skater boi’s girlfriend. They are rocking out and making beautiful music together. Is this song autobiographical? Perhaps. What I love about this song is the take home message. If you like someone who likes you don’t let pride get into being with him. You know this guy could be a future doctor, lawyer, dope producer or a successful entrepreneur. How do I know? Hmmm never mind

Tuesday, August 13, 2013

Is Cooking Essential?


Ok you read the title. Why this topic? Well as a 20 something female this has been a topic discussed in many arenas. So is cooking essential for a woman and a man? Yes! I know that sounds old fashioned but there will always be an advantage to knowing how to cook. Do you want to be a life long takeout queen and king?  What is so great about knowing how to cook? I’m going to give you a few of my opinions. Okay the first one being survival! Ordering takeout and going to Wendy’s everyday is just too expensive no matter how you look at it. Also it can make your waistline expand. Family time is another advantage. If a married couple has at least one person who can cook, it brings you guys together. Next cooking promotes independence. When you are hungry you can get the ingredients you need and boom do your thing in the kitchen. Another one not typical is that it boosts your creative juices. Someone who cooks very well is also a creative person finding new ways to make their culinary masterpiece. Finally, when you cook it brings you closer to your cultural background. My mom always tells me stories about my grandmother and her siblings on different dishes they have made. I know as a Haitian American it felt awesome when I made my first bouyoun and also the time I made homemade cremas. Memories. To sum up cooking is essential to everyday life. 

Monday, August 5, 2013

Are You Attractive Enough?


Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What makes someone attractive is a matter of preference. I would like to share some things that might make you more attractive rather attractive enough. This post is for the ladies, but men you can share this with women of your life. Now obviously physical appearance is key. Now whatever the interpretation that is knock yourself out. However wear clothes that are for your SHAPE and size, don’t think too hard on what equates a great outfit, and hygiene goes a long way. Ok now your very pretty and clean what also makes you more attractive is having a life. Yes when have things going for you it makes you attractive. Why is that important? It makes you an interesting and attractive woman. Two more things I promise. A unique personality trait that defines you will make you attractive. So if you are very patient person bring that to the table. Finally what makes someone attractive knows “you got it like that” which just means you know your worth. Ladies we are beautiful gems and jewels, stand high and be regal. If he doesn’t value you…on to the next one! 

Friday, August 2, 2013

Growing Pains




Growing is life, what does not grow essentially is dead. The process of growth from a child to a capable adult is long hard road. I feel this part of life is very confusing and rather entertaining. I know for sure growth is natural but we as humans can stunt our growth. This is done in various ways. One strong example is feeling sorry for your self or playing the role of a victim. The past is done and thinking that you will never grow will actually happen. Anyone coming from a bad place can get to where they want to go. Growth and change starts in the mind. I have my own example to prove that. Growing up I would say you could call me big I felt like I was very fat. Over time looking back at my older pictures I was not fat at all. Yet my negative self-talk came true unfortunately. When you make your mind to change and grow, you have already won half the battle. Attitude adjustments are part of having growing pains. Always remember wondering about the past will make you caught up and not see the progress of the present and the potential of the future.

Monday, May 13, 2013

New Jack Swing: Urban Music’s Defining Shift



This is rather cliché, Lil Wayne has a feature on a R&B song. Chris Brown or Ne-Yo “rescues” some rapper’s hook.  This is an example of urban radio today. However this didn’t happen overnight. New Jack Swing. What is that? This is and was a groundbreaking sound in music. To make a long story short: R&B singers now sing over hip hop beats found in a drum machine created in the 80’s. Now rappers could enlist an R&B/Soul vocalist to jazz up their song. There are many examples. I want to share my own personal ones from my existence. First, “Remember the Time” by Michael Jackson, he wanted to try this new “sound”, The album Dangerous was awesome. Mary J Blige and Puffy (now Diddy) executive produced “What’s The 411” and “My Life”…”dopeness”. Mary’s soulful voice blended with a hard-hitting street sound. This musical mish mash a definite yin/yang. I have even more countless examples. What I can say is that “Dangerous” is one of the best selling new jack swing albums by the “King of Pop” rather ironic. Mary J Blige has been coined by her collaborator Sean “Diddy” Combs, the “Queen of Hip Hop Soul” New Jack Swing is Smooth yet Hard, Soulful yet Street. It’s still relevant. Appreciate these beautiful contrasts. I know I do. Yes this is my opinion.

Wednesday, February 27, 2013

Deal breakers: Are They Breaking Your Heart?


So it’s been a minute, since I posted. What comes to my mind and makes me want to share with you…Deal breakers!  This concept has been mentioned in all of these relationship guru’s work. Books, articles, tweets, and my blog. What is a deal breaker anyway? Well it is something that someone has or a lifestyle partner will not tolerate. Thus not giving the chance to have a romantic relationship. There have been ton of examples why people are not together. Lets visit some and together well rather you the reader will  think if it’s fair. One deal breaker is dating a single parent. Now some people complicate this situation, they will be with someone who has a child or a toddler but if this partner has a teenager, its like nah I’m good. I just think these types of people don’t want to be a stepparent. LOL. Funny right.  I believe in this situation it depends what type of children your potential partner have. Okay the next one, this person is unemployed. Honestly for this one, if you met this person and they painted a picture of being stable financially well there probably in a life of crime. All jokes aside. Perhaps the person really lost their job. All I can say is that patience is a virtue. Now, other deal breakers: height, being thrifty aka cheap, no car, no degree, boring. Okay the height deal breaker hits home, I’m tall and it irks me when a guy shorter then me takes interest. How do I handle this dilemma? Well, for one is the short height a small difference or a Shaq and Hoops situation?  If he is the total package just a few inches shorter is not a problem really. My mom has told me time after time as a woman you add value to my man, so if you are tall and everything nice, well a man who is a little shorter is not a problem.  I cant with cheap people, you are not going to die with money, but enjoy life within your wage of course. No car, well this is a NYC based blog, the dude can maintain without a car for some time, car notes are no joke. No degree, a college degree does not equal intelligence or wisdom. Yes I love a man with ambition, but don’t judge a book by its cover.  Okay the boring dudes or gals.  Maybe you can be the excitement in that person’s life.  There are plenty of more deal breakers. These are just the most entertaining issues to write about on this blog. I can inform and also entertain. Yes This is My Opinion!