Friday, August 18, 2017

Is Monogamy Outdated?

Monogamy. Can two people really stay faithful to one another? This is a question I ask myself as I grow and mature. Is there a possibility you will be cheated on when married or an in committed relationship? The most beautiful and successful people get cheated on and make albums about it. We hear of men having other families while being married.Let us not forget about someone having a side piece. If cheating, is wrong to say the least why do men and women do it? How come people who are in a committed relationship act like they are single and looking?. Also, do you take back someone who cheats on you? If someone cheats once will they cheat again? These questions swirl in my brain. What do you think? Is cheating normal and expected in 2017? Feel free to speak your mind.

Monday, August 14, 2017

I'm Focused Man...

Creative people are a special set of people. They have their strengths and weaknesses. One thing I notice, (as I speak for myself) is the lack of focus we sometimes don't have. Ideas come left and right. We get bogged down with things we want to do but have no focus. I have tons of ideas in my mind filled with countless notebooks. I start working on projects simultaneously then lose focus and track of time. I wonder if any other creative person can attest to that. It is definitely a gift and a curse. One thing I have realized is that you must focus, finish one course until successful. It is easier said than
done. What are some of the challenges you face as a creative? What do you think are some solutions to these challenges?

Monday, August 7, 2017

The Emergence of TV Again

All over my social media timelines, I find posts about Power and Game of Thrones. I feel out of touch because I have not watched tv in a very long time. Insecure is another tv show that is also talked about. Despite me not being hip, I see the emergence of TV again. People are talking about watching tv. Monday seems to be a busy day for tv viewers. It makes me wonder if I will go back to watching tv again? Only time will tell. It seems like an outlet for people in a major way. TV is back and is invading social media. What is your favorite tv show? Do you have the time to watch tv?

Friday, August 4, 2017


What age are you considered old? This is something I always wonder. When I was in elementary school I thought being 16 years old was old. I was definitely very young and ignorant. As an older millennial, I reflect on my teens and twenties and I do not remember half of the things that happened or what I actually did. Growing older is a blessing, however, for a woman, it can be daunting. Turning 30 is considered a milestone and maybe to some the beginning of the end. Lol. What is so funny as we reach a new decade in our lifetime there is always something else to think about. I feel we embrace staying young in this American society but are scared to approach 30 and beyond. It is an interesting phenomenon. One thing I can say is that I wiser and more stronger than before. Age is just a number. 

Wednesday, August 2, 2017

Natural vs Relaxed

In October 2009, comedian Chris Rock released the film “Good Hair” that spoke about the Black woman’s quest to find good hair. What is good hair to say the least? To be honest I do not know. The question of our hair is a sensitive issue in the black community. With the emergence of the natural hair movement in this decade or so, many black women are embracing their unprocessed natural hair. YouTube has become our best friend and we are displaying our natural curls. However there are some people who still relax their hair or use enhancements with their hair. The debate seems to be if someone is black enough if their hair is not in their natural state. To be honest it is just hair. I believe as a woman I have options to do whatever I want to do with my hair. Personally I have natural hair. It has been a long ten years but I have used enhancements to say the least, does that mean I don’t embrace my blackness. I don’t think so. It is a shame that we are divided over something so trivial as hair. What are your thoughts on this subject? Do you think it is a problem in the black community?

Monday, July 31, 2017

Unapologetically You

It boggles my mind when someone is afraid to be themselves. They present to be someone they are not to the world. Sometimes I think some people are afraid not to be liked by their peers. With the advent of smartphones and social media some people do things and become people they are not really are. Be unapologetically you! Speak up and speak your mind. Be yourself. In a world of posers and fraudulence be the truest version of yourself. Also, it can be said if you are not being who you really are you are only fooling yourself and not anyone else. Once you live your truth life becomes clearer and more fulfilling. My advice to you Be Yourself. That is all folks!

Monday, July 24, 2017

A Dope Quick Read

Who hasn’t watched a Breakfast Club interview on YouTube? tha God. Each personality brings a flavor to this morning radio show. Charlamagne tha God is one personality in particular that brings a lot of controversies and a unique voice to the radio. This voice is expressed more in his memoir/motivational guide Black Privilege. This book was a quick read but I got a lot from it. Let me share three things that I learned and want to share:
The Breakfast Club interviews the biggest influencers and entertainers in the hip hop culture/entertainment world. The Breakfast Club consists of three radio personalities: DJ Envy, Angela Yee, and Charlamagne

·      Stay focused. We get distracted and don’t reach our goals and wonder what happened. Success takes hard work and sacrifice. Common sense to say the least but hearing it from a character like Charlamagne tha God puts it into perspective and makes you think.
·      Grow and Evolve. If you are the same person you were in high school then you are doing things wrong. Does it mean that your personality you were born with changes no you will always be you but as you grow older your perspective has to change and evolve. Growth and change is important
·      Kindness is everything. Treat people how you want to be treated. You may end up crossing paths with them later on in life. Karma is real.

Besides gaining these valuable lessons I laughed at Charlamagne’s different childhood memories along with his stories about his youth. If you want an unconventional way to motivate yourself and a good laugh go read Black Privilege.


Friday, July 21, 2017

Time Management part 2

Time management. This word is not my best friend. There are 24 hours in a day yet sometimes I feel like I need ten more hours. Why is it that some people always get things done while others struggle? It all boils down to how we spend our time. When you are chasing your goals and dreams and have a 9-5, it can be hard to give yourself the energy to do what matters. This is what I am facing right now but I will work hard on fixing that. Stay tuned!

Wednesday, May 17, 2017

I'm Too Busy

I’m too busy, I don’t have time. At times we hear these phrases from people who we know or trying to get to know. I believe these are plain excuses. In life, you have to make time for those who are important to you. Time is something that is valuable and has to be respected. If someone does not the have time for you, you should reevaluate your relationship with him or her. It is one thing to miss something or be tied up a from time to time but to make it a habit is an issue. Evaluate the people who say this all the time to you. You are most likely not a priority to them.

Tuesday, May 16, 2017

Everyone's Favorite Word

Success. That seems to be every millennial's favorite word. Yet is that individual willing to actually be successful? I believe it takes a lot of sacrifice and focus. Sometimes, that means waking up extra early, giving up TV, reading more, skipping a happy hour the list goes on. Whatever you want to achieve is all in your hands. Only you can stop yourself from reaching your goals. The concept is very simple but not easy. We all know what it takes but it is easier said than done. What do you think is holding you back from reaching your goals? Do you have a support system? What is your definition of success? What is one thing you will do today to get closer to your dreams? Make a decision to do something different to impact your life. Success will come sooner than you think.

Monday, May 15, 2017

What Happened Essence?
I love magazines. As a teenager, I would buy them and as a young adult, I would subscribe to several magazines. One magazine, in particular, I was fond of was Essence magazine. I know that magazines have a digital component to them now. Which is normal. However, I am disappointed in Essence magazine’s digital content. For example, most of the posts on their Facebook feed are click bait articles. The content is not newsworthy and very tabloid news like style of content. I am upset at this publication that I once respected. I don’t know if the content changed because of Time Inc. acquisition of the brand years ago. I do just not really like articles about what a black celebrity is wearing or whom they are dating. If I wanted to read something like that I would go to the Shade Room or Baller Alert, not Essence. The digital team has to step it up. What do you think? Do you still read Essence? Am I overreacting? Let me know, let’s discuss this issue.