Monday, September 4, 2017

Social Media Addiction

Social media has been part of our lives for almost two decades. However like anything in life it can be abused. That abuse then becomes an addiction. I have to admit I have a love hate relationship with social media. It can be a source of entertainment or superficial connection with people. However, certain people are addicted to it in one way or another. Do you constantly make live videos on Facebook and Instagram? Do you head to your smartphone as soon as you wake up? Do you scroll endlessly down your Twitter timeline or Facebook timeline and lose track of time? Do you check your notifications every second it blows off? Do you say everything that is on your mind every day on Facebook? Do you have to snap all your day's events every day? Do you watch Youtube tutorials all day on your free time? Yeah, you have a problem you are addicted to social media. Remember there was life before Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Youtube, Snapchat, Tumblr, etc Take time to socialize offline. Go to the gym and do not snap your workout. Lol. Create content for Youtube instead of consuming it. Cook that Thai recipe you have been holding off on. Take a walk in the park. There is more to life than social media. Get off the matrix and tune into 3D reality. This is all coming from a recovering social media addict. You will thank me later.

Friday, September 1, 2017

The Death of 9-5

We now live in a new shift of economy. The death of the 9-5, as I put it. There are now many ways to make an income outside a conventional job. The rise of Uber, TaskRabbit, Airbnb, Postmates and much more have created a new income generating system. Everyone seems to have a gig full time or part time. Freelancing seems to be the way to go. What does that mean for you? I believe it means more options to make a living. I have used this new concept to make an income myself. Have anyone freelanced or have an unconventional job such as Uber? What are the pros and cons? Do you think this will die out anytime soon? Is this the death of the 9-5?

Wednesday, August 30, 2017

Information Overload

We live in an age where information is at our fingertips. However, at different times in my life, I have experienced information overload. What does that entail? Maybe researching a topic of interest on Google and Youtube and feeling overwhelmed with the information. In my own personal life, it means signing up for personal development courses for free or at affordable prices and not checking my inbox for the course information. I have signed up for Udemy courses and have yet to complete the courses. It is just too much information. I love learning but at times there is too much information to process and implement in my life. Granted I will be going to grad school in a week and wonder if I will use the same logic. When is information too much for you? Do people really implement the information they receive? What do you think comment below:

Monday, August 28, 2017

Adult Friendships

One of the hardest things about being an adult is forming new friendships. The ease of being in school and being younger makes meeting new people easier. However, life happens. One challenge is one you move to a new city, where do you meet people and connect. Another challenge is keeping up with adult responsibilities of having a career and starting a family. How do you go about this obstacle? There are some things you can do and let's discuss them right now.

Reconnect. Sometimes time distances you from your friends. At times there is no bad blood between you and your old friends. Take the time to reconnect with that old friend you have. Invite them to brunch or just call to catch up. Maybe you can continue where you left off.

Volunteer. Making an impact with whatever cause you are fighting for doesn't have to be a solitary thing. Socialize with the people you volunteer with. You can definitely find more things in common besides where you volunteer.

Be Friendly. There is a fine line between being friendly and creepy, be smart about it. I have met my adult friends randomly by just being friendly in a genuine way. If you really like what someone is wearing, compliment them. If you go to an event, strike up a conversation with other attendees. I did this and made four new friends since last year.

Put Yourself Out There. I live in New York City, Brooklyn to be exact and there are tons of events to check out. Go to these events and just enjoy yourself. You will eventually at least one person who is willing to talk to you.

Join An Organization. Whether it be a non-profit, church, temple, or mosque belonging to something that shares your beliefs is a great way to meet people. Find a place where you are comfortable and the people are genuine and friendly.

Enjoy Your Own Company. This may sound counterproductive. However, it is an amazing thing to do things by yourself and not wait for people to have fun. Some people miss out on amazing experiences because they do not want to be alone. If you can't enjoy your own company from time to time who will enjoy and appreciate your presence. Food for thought.

I hope these tips help you maneuver adult friendships.

Wednesday, August 23, 2017

Building Wealth

Building wealth is a vast subject. I am no financial guru but  I'm learning some things about wealth building as we speak. I'm going to share several things I have learned from experience, mentors, and books/internet/Youtube:

  1. Learn the language of money. Money talks but do you know the language of money. Take time to research to become financially literate. Take a class. If you your budget allows for it get a financial coach.
  2. Have a mindset of wealth. What you think about is what you will become. If you are not thinking about how to build wealth and the steps you will take how will it happen.
  3. Be around people who are wealthy. It has been said if you are the same 5 people all the time you will become them. If you want to build wealth then you have to be around people who have a wealthy mindset.
  4. Live within your means. This is what kills people the most. They live above their means and do not build wealth. The next time you have to think about buying something you know you can afford don't buy it.
  5. Save and Invest. If you only consume but do not save and invest in something that will give you something in return, wealth is far from you.
  6. Be Patient. Building wealth is a lifestyle and does not happen overnight, stay away from get rich quick schemes.
I hope this has sparked some ideas in your mind about building wealth. What are some things you can do currently to build wealth in your life?

Monday, August 21, 2017

My Favorite R&B Groups

I love music and love most genres. One of the musical genres I grew up on is R&B. Love is a very interesting topic to sing about. I grew up on 90's and 2000's music. There were many acts during that time. Some better than others. I always had a soft spot for musical groups, R&B groups in particular. So I have compiled a list of my favorite R&B groups and why I think they are awesome:


This group had catchy hits and I was first introduced to them by my older cousin, I remember her giving the album to my older brother to check out. I then listened to Crazy Sexy Cool and was hooked. My favorite TLC song is "Digging on You". I listened to their new album and I was not disappointed. My favorite member is T-Boz.

Dru Hill


Who doesn't love a Dru Hill song? This group just makes good music. My favorite song is "Never Make A Promise". My favorite member is Nokio. He is just so handsome. The group meshes well together. I really want to see them live one day.

New Edition


This group was before my time but when their reunion album came out about 20 years ago, I was hooked. This group has the talented Bobby Brown, Johnny Gill, BBD, and Ralph Tresvant. The group can dance, rap, and sing. My favorite song is "If It Isn't Love" My favorite member is Ronnie DeVoe.

I have some honorable mentions: B2K, Immature/IMX, SWV. Who are your favorite R&B groups? Comment below.

Friday, August 18, 2017

Is Monogamy Outdated?

Monogamy. Can two people really stay faithful to one another? This is a question I ask myself as I grow and mature. Is there a possibility you will be cheated on when married or an in committed relationship? The most beautiful and successful people get cheated on and make albums about it. We hear of men having other families while being married.Let us not forget about someone having a side piece. If cheating, is wrong to say the least why do men and women do it? How come people who are in a committed relationship act like they are single and looking?. Also, do you take back someone who cheats on you? If someone cheats once will they cheat again? These questions swirl in my brain. What do you think? Is cheating normal and expected in 2017? Feel free to speak your mind.

Monday, August 14, 2017

I'm Focused Man...

Creative people are a special set of people. They have their strengths and weaknesses. One thing I notice, (as I speak for myself) is the lack of focus we sometimes don't have. Ideas come left and right. We get bogged down with things we want to do but have no focus. I have tons of ideas in my mind filled with countless notebooks. I start working on projects simultaneously then lose focus and track of time. I wonder if any other creative person can attest to that. It is definitely a gift and a curse. One thing I have realized is that you must focus, finish one course until successful. It is easier said than
done. What are some of the challenges you face as a creative? What do you think are some solutions to these challenges?

Monday, August 7, 2017

The Emergence of TV Again

All over my social media timelines, I find posts about Power and Game of Thrones. I feel out of touch because I have not watched tv in a very long time. Insecure is another tv show that is also talked about. Despite me not being hip, I see the emergence of TV again. People are talking about watching tv. Monday seems to be a busy day for tv viewers. It makes me wonder if I will go back to watching tv again? Only time will tell. It seems like an outlet for people in a major way. TV is back and is invading social media. What is your favorite tv show? Do you have the time to watch tv?

Friday, August 4, 2017


What age are you considered old? This is something I always wonder. When I was in elementary school I thought being 16 years old was old. I was definitely very young and ignorant. As an older millennial, I reflect on my teens and twenties and I do not remember half of the things that happened or what I actually did. Growing older is a blessing, however, for a woman, it can be daunting. Turning 30 is considered a milestone and maybe to some the beginning of the end. Lol. What is so funny as we reach a new decade in our lifetime there is always something else to think about. I feel we embrace staying young in this American society but are scared to approach 30 and beyond. It is an interesting phenomenon. One thing I can say is that I wiser and more stronger than before. Age is just a number. 

Wednesday, August 2, 2017

Natural vs Relaxed

In October 2009, comedian Chris Rock released the film “Good Hair” that spoke about the Black woman’s quest to find good hair. What is good hair to say the least? To be honest I do not know. The question of our hair is a sensitive issue in the black community. With the emergence of the natural hair movement in this decade or so, many black women are embracing their unprocessed natural hair. YouTube has become our best friend and we are displaying our natural curls. However there are some people who still relax their hair or use enhancements with their hair. The debate seems to be if someone is black enough if their hair is not in their natural state. To be honest it is just hair. I believe as a woman I have options to do whatever I want to do with my hair. Personally I have natural hair. It has been a long ten years but I have used enhancements to say the least, does that mean I don’t embrace my blackness. I don’t think so. It is a shame that we are divided over something so trivial as hair. What are your thoughts on this subject? Do you think it is a problem in the black community?

Monday, July 31, 2017

Unapologetically You

It boggles my mind when someone is afraid to be themselves. They present to be someone they are not to the world. Sometimes I think some people are afraid not to be liked by their peers. With the advent of smartphones and social media some people do things and become people they are not really are. Be unapologetically you! Speak up and speak your mind. Be yourself. In a world of posers and fraudulence be the truest version of yourself. Also, it can be said if you are not being who you really are you are only fooling yourself and not anyone else. Once you live your truth life becomes clearer and more fulfilling. My advice to you Be Yourself. That is all folks!

Monday, July 24, 2017

A Dope Quick Read

Who hasn’t watched a Breakfast Club interview on YouTube? tha God. Each personality brings a flavor to this morning radio show. Charlamagne tha God is one personality in particular that brings a lot of controversies and a unique voice to the radio. This voice is expressed more in his memoir/motivational guide Black Privilege. This book was a quick read but I got a lot from it. Let me share three things that I learned and want to share:
The Breakfast Club interviews the biggest influencers and entertainers in the hip hop culture/entertainment world. The Breakfast Club consists of three radio personalities: DJ Envy, Angela Yee, and Charlamagne

·      Stay focused. We get distracted and don’t reach our goals and wonder what happened. Success takes hard work and sacrifice. Common sense to say the least but hearing it from a character like Charlamagne tha God puts it into perspective and makes you think.
·      Grow and Evolve. If you are the same person you were in high school then you are doing things wrong. Does it mean that your personality you were born with changes no you will always be you but as you grow older your perspective has to change and evolve. Growth and change is important
·      Kindness is everything. Treat people how you want to be treated. You may end up crossing paths with them later on in life. Karma is real.

Besides gaining these valuable lessons I laughed at Charlamagne’s different childhood memories along with his stories about his youth. If you want an unconventional way to motivate yourself and a good laugh go read Black Privilege.


Friday, July 21, 2017

Time Management part 2

Time management. This word is not my best friend. There are 24 hours in a day yet sometimes I feel like I need ten more hours. Why is it that some people always get things done while others struggle? It all boils down to how we spend our time. When you are chasing your goals and dreams and have a 9-5, it can be hard to give yourself the energy to do what matters. This is what I am facing right now but I will work hard on fixing that. Stay tuned!

Wednesday, May 17, 2017

I'm Too Busy

I’m too busy, I don’t have time. At times we hear these phrases from people who we know or trying to get to know. I believe these are plain excuses. In life, you have to make time for those who are important to you. Time is something that is valuable and has to be respected. If someone does not the have time for you, you should reevaluate your relationship with him or her. It is one thing to miss something or be tied up a from time to time but to make it a habit is an issue. Evaluate the people who say this all the time to you. You are most likely not a priority to them.

Tuesday, May 16, 2017

Everyone's Favorite Word

Success. That seems to be every millennial's favorite word. Yet is that individual willing to actually be successful? I believe it takes a lot of sacrifice and focus. Sometimes, that means waking up extra early, giving up TV, reading more, skipping a happy hour the list goes on. Whatever you want to achieve is all in your hands. Only you can stop yourself from reaching your goals. The concept is very simple but not easy. We all know what it takes but it is easier said than done. What do you think is holding you back from reaching your goals? Do you have a support system? What is your definition of success? What is one thing you will do today to get closer to your dreams? Make a decision to do something different to impact your life. Success will come sooner than you think.