Wednesday, August 30, 2017

Information Overload

We live in an age where information is at our fingertips. However, at different times in my life, I have experienced information overload. What does that entail? Maybe researching a topic of interest on Google and Youtube and feeling overwhelmed with the information. In my own personal life, it means signing up for personal development courses for free or at affordable prices and not checking my inbox for the course information. I have signed up for Udemy courses and have yet to complete the courses. It is just too much information. I love learning but at times there is too much information to process and implement in my life. Granted I will be going to grad school in a week and wonder if I will use the same logic. When is information too much for you? Do people really implement the information they receive? What do you think comment below:

Monday, August 28, 2017

Adult Friendships

One of the hardest things about being an adult is forming new friendships. The ease of being in school and being younger makes meeting new people easier. However, life happens. One challenge is one you move to a new city, where do you meet people and connect. Another challenge is keeping up with adult responsibilities of having a career and starting a family. How do you go about this obstacle? There are some things you can do and let's discuss them right now.

Reconnect. Sometimes time distances you from your friends. At times there is no bad blood between you and your old friends. Take the time to reconnect with that old friend you have. Invite them to brunch or just call to catch up. Maybe you can continue where you left off.

Volunteer. Making an impact with whatever cause you are fighting for doesn't have to be a solitary thing. Socialize with the people you volunteer with. You can definitely find more things in common besides where you volunteer.

Be Friendly. There is a fine line between being friendly and creepy, be smart about it. I have met my adult friends randomly by just being friendly in a genuine way. If you really like what someone is wearing, compliment them. If you go to an event, strike up a conversation with other attendees. I did this and made four new friends since last year.

Put Yourself Out There. I live in New York City, Brooklyn to be exact and there are tons of events to check out. Go to these events and just enjoy yourself. You will eventually at least one person who is willing to talk to you.

Join An Organization. Whether it be a non-profit, church, temple, or mosque belonging to something that shares your beliefs is a great way to meet people. Find a place where you are comfortable and the people are genuine and friendly.

Enjoy Your Own Company. This may sound counterproductive. However, it is an amazing thing to do things by yourself and not wait for people to have fun. Some people miss out on amazing experiences because they do not want to be alone. If you can't enjoy your own company from time to time who will enjoy and appreciate your presence. Food for thought.

I hope these tips help you maneuver adult friendships.

Wednesday, August 23, 2017

Building Wealth

Building wealth is a vast subject. I am no financial guru but  I'm learning some things about wealth building as we speak. I'm going to share several things I have learned from experience, mentors, and books/internet/Youtube:

  1. Learn the language of money. Money talks but do you know the language of money. Take time to research to become financially literate. Take a class. If you your budget allows for it get a financial coach.
  2. Have a mindset of wealth. What you think about is what you will become. If you are not thinking about how to build wealth and the steps you will take how will it happen.
  3. Be around people who are wealthy. It has been said if you are the same 5 people all the time you will become them. If you want to build wealth then you have to be around people who have a wealthy mindset.
  4. Live within your means. This is what kills people the most. They live above their means and do not build wealth. The next time you have to think about buying something you know you can afford don't buy it.
  5. Save and Invest. If you only consume but do not save and invest in something that will give you something in return, wealth is far from you.
  6. Be Patient. Building wealth is a lifestyle and does not happen overnight, stay away from get rich quick schemes.
I hope this has sparked some ideas in your mind about building wealth. What are some things you can do currently to build wealth in your life?

Monday, August 21, 2017

My Favorite R&B Groups

I love music and love most genres. One of the musical genres I grew up on is R&B. Love is a very interesting topic to sing about. I grew up on 90's and 2000's music. There were many acts during that time. Some better than others. I always had a soft spot for musical groups, R&B groups in particular. So I have compiled a list of my favorite R&B groups and why I think they are awesome:


This group had catchy hits and I was first introduced to them by my older cousin, I remember her giving the album to my older brother to check out. I then listened to Crazy Sexy Cool and was hooked. My favorite TLC song is "Digging on You". I listened to their new album and I was not disappointed. My favorite member is T-Boz.

Dru Hill


Who doesn't love a Dru Hill song? This group just makes good music. My favorite song is "Never Make A Promise". My favorite member is Nokio. He is just so handsome. The group meshes well together. I really want to see them live one day.

New Edition


This group was before my time but when their reunion album came out about 20 years ago, I was hooked. This group has the talented Bobby Brown, Johnny Gill, BBD, and Ralph Tresvant. The group can dance, rap, and sing. My favorite song is "If It Isn't Love" My favorite member is Ronnie DeVoe.

I have some honorable mentions: B2K, Immature/IMX, SWV. Who are your favorite R&B groups? Comment below.

Friday, August 18, 2017

Is Monogamy Outdated?

Monogamy. Can two people really stay faithful to one another? This is a question I ask myself as I grow and mature. Is there a possibility you will be cheated on when married or an in committed relationship? The most beautiful and successful people get cheated on and make albums about it. We hear of men having other families while being married.Let us not forget about someone having a side piece. If cheating, is wrong to say the least why do men and women do it? How come people who are in a committed relationship act like they are single and looking?. Also, do you take back someone who cheats on you? If someone cheats once will they cheat again? These questions swirl in my brain. What do you think? Is cheating normal and expected in 2017? Feel free to speak your mind.

Monday, August 14, 2017

I'm Focused Man...

Creative people are a special set of people. They have their strengths and weaknesses. One thing I notice, (as I speak for myself) is the lack of focus we sometimes don't have. Ideas come left and right. We get bogged down with things we want to do but have no focus. I have tons of ideas in my mind filled with countless notebooks. I start working on projects simultaneously then lose focus and track of time. I wonder if any other creative person can attest to that. It is definitely a gift and a curse. One thing I have realized is that you must focus, finish one course until successful. It is easier said than
done. What are some of the challenges you face as a creative? What do you think are some solutions to these challenges?

Monday, August 7, 2017

The Emergence of TV Again

All over my social media timelines, I find posts about Power and Game of Thrones. I feel out of touch because I have not watched tv in a very long time. Insecure is another tv show that is also talked about. Despite me not being hip, I see the emergence of TV again. People are talking about watching tv. Monday seems to be a busy day for tv viewers. It makes me wonder if I will go back to watching tv again? Only time will tell. It seems like an outlet for people in a major way. TV is back and is invading social media. What is your favorite tv show? Do you have the time to watch tv?

Friday, August 4, 2017


What age are you considered old? This is something I always wonder. When I was in elementary school I thought being 16 years old was old. I was definitely very young and ignorant. As an older millennial, I reflect on my teens and twenties and I do not remember half of the things that happened or what I actually did. Growing older is a blessing, however, for a woman, it can be daunting. Turning 30 is considered a milestone and maybe to some the beginning of the end. Lol. What is so funny as we reach a new decade in our lifetime there is always something else to think about. I feel we embrace staying young in this American society but are scared to approach 30 and beyond. It is an interesting phenomenon. One thing I can say is that I wiser and more stronger than before. Age is just a number. 

Wednesday, August 2, 2017

Natural vs Relaxed

In October 2009, comedian Chris Rock released the film “Good Hair” that spoke about the Black woman’s quest to find good hair. What is good hair to say the least? To be honest I do not know. The question of our hair is a sensitive issue in the black community. With the emergence of the natural hair movement in this decade or so, many black women are embracing their unprocessed natural hair. YouTube has become our best friend and we are displaying our natural curls. However there are some people who still relax their hair or use enhancements with their hair. The debate seems to be if someone is black enough if their hair is not in their natural state. To be honest it is just hair. I believe as a woman I have options to do whatever I want to do with my hair. Personally I have natural hair. It has been a long ten years but I have used enhancements to say the least, does that mean I don’t embrace my blackness. I don’t think so. It is a shame that we are divided over something so trivial as hair. What are your thoughts on this subject? Do you think it is a problem in the black community?